Comments on: Oh no! Queer and Disabled… All At the Same Time!!?! http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/ Sat, 22 Nov 2008 17:57:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Melody http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-2121 Melody Sat, 29 Mar 2008 08:17:34 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-2121 I am autistic and came out as a lesbian last year. I am fortunate that I have not been under such oppressive circumstances, and my parents are comfortable with me being gay, but I see a lot of time people's sexuality being denied by others simply because that person has a disability. I am autistic and came out as a lesbian last year. I am fortunate that I have not been under such oppressive circumstances, and my parents are comfortable with me being gay, but I see a lot of time people’s sexuality being denied by others simply because that person has a disability.

]]> By: April http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1109 April Wed, 05 Dec 2007 04:44:15 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1109 I think that stereotyping subtly is a huge problem in American culture. I think that stereotyping subtly is a huge problem in American culture.

]]> By: shiva http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1092 shiva Mon, 03 Dec 2007 20:26:09 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1092 Oh yeah, i think i read another US disability blogger (Kay Olson, perhaps?) say something about how, in the US, it's illegal for certain types of PA tasks to be done without a nurse's licence, or the person (not sure if the PA or employer?) could be arrested for "practicing medicine without a licence" or something equally fucked up and silly... basically, of course, the effect of that law being to keep people in nursing homes... At least (AFAIK) the UK isn't quite *that* paternalistic (although it's probably getting there)... sometimes, from a UK perspective, the US really does seem like this monumental contradiction of simulaneously the most "libertarian" and the most paternalistic culture in the world... Oh yeah, i think i read another US disability blogger (Kay Olson, perhaps?) say something about how, in the US, it’s illegal for certain types of PA tasks to be done without a nurse’s licence, or the person (not sure if the PA or employer?) could be arrested for “practicing medicine without a licence” or something equally fucked up and silly… basically, of course, the effect of that law being to keep people in nursing homes…

At least (AFAIK) the UK isn’t quite *that* paternalistic (although it’s probably getting there)… sometimes, from a UK perspective, the US really does seem like this monumental contradiction of simulaneously the most “libertarian” and the most paternalistic culture in the world…

]]> By: cripchick http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1081 cripchick Sun, 02 Dec 2007 15:51:13 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1081 WTTO, would love if you did a post. thanks for the link to quench, definitely will have to check it out. glad to hear that you are connected to disability as there are so many alliances between communities to be made! WTTO, would love if you did a post. thanks for the link to quench, definitely will have to check it out.

glad to hear that you are connected to disability as there are so many alliances between communities to be made!

]]> By: cripchick http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1080 cripchick Sun, 02 Dec 2007 15:47:51 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1080 kameelah, good to see you, especially since i've been lurking your blog for quite a while :) shiva, good point but because PAs are so apart of my transportation, daily life, etc. it's something you can't really keep from them, after a certain point. also, i've been calling them home health nurses because they don't like the term PA (the ones i know want recognition that they went to nursing school, they'd rather even me call them a friend instead but that doesn't fit either) and the reality is that i need someone who has a nurse's license. thanks for the blog links! kameelah, good to see you, especially since i’ve been lurking your blog for quite a while :)

shiva, good point but because PAs are so apart of my transportation, daily life, etc. it’s something you can’t really keep from them, after a certain point. also, i’ve been calling them home health nurses because they don’t like the term PA (the ones i know want recognition that they went to nursing school, they’d rather even me call them a friend instead but that doesn’t fit either) and the reality is that i need someone who has a nurse’s license. thanks for the blog links!

]]> By: WTTO http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1079 WTTO Sun, 02 Dec 2007 15:41:23 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1079 Hi there, I just stumbled upon your blog and have been reading some of your posts. I write for a big queer group-blog called quench and I was wondering if you would mind if I did a post linking to this one to help introduce some of our readers to your blog. I am a queer partner of a person with a disability (who doesn't identify as a crip, though - I tend to be the one with the radical politics). Anyhow, I added you to my feed reader and look forward to reading your future work. WTTO Hi there,

I just stumbled upon your blog and have been reading some of your posts. I write for a big queer group-blog called quench and I was wondering if you would mind if I did a post linking to this one to help introduce some of our readers to your blog.

I am a queer partner of a person with a disability (who doesn’t identify as a crip, though - I tend to be the one with the radical politics). Anyhow, I added you to my feed reader and look forward to reading your future work.

WTTO

]]> By: shiva http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1078 shiva Sun, 02 Dec 2007 14:53:16 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1078 Well, with "home health nurses" (horrible phrase - don't you have PAs?), really your sexuality - or any other non-impairment-related aspect of yourself - is none of their business unless you choose to tell them about it... Do you read Elizabeth McClung's blog? I think you'd like <a href="http://elizabethmcclung.blogspot.com/2007/11/last-november-post-and-five-reasons-not.html" rel="nofollow">this post</a>... Most of that article was... really depressing. :( I bet it was some homophobic asshole in authority who prevented that couple from getting an apartment together. Some of the other stuff - like the guy who tried propositioning random people in Wal-Mart - really got to me too. I might write something on it if i can get my thoughts sufficiently together about it... (still got about a dozen posts on queerness and disability i intend to write... if i can sort my life out enough to write coherently...) oh yeah, <a href="http://sexability.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Sexability</a> is another blog on these kind of issues, if you don't read it already... Well, with “home health nurses” (horrible phrase - don’t you have PAs?), really your sexuality - or any other non-impairment-related aspect of yourself - is none of their business unless you choose to tell them about it…

Do you read Elizabeth McClung’s blog? I think you’d like this post…

Most of that article was… really depressing. :( I bet it was some homophobic asshole in authority who prevented that couple from getting an apartment together. Some of the other stuff - like the guy who tried propositioning random people in Wal-Mart - really got to me too. I might write something on it if i can get my thoughts sufficiently together about it…

(still got about a dozen posts on queerness and disability i intend to write… if i can sort my life out enough to write coherently…)

oh yeah, Sexability is another blog on these kind of issues, if you don’t read it already…

]]> By: kameelah http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1077 kameelah Sun, 02 Dec 2007 08:57:15 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1077 cool blog! issues of disability are something that i as an activist have not put much thought behind :( shame on me, i know and i am working on it. i was just thinking about how the assumptions of vulnerability and naivety could conveniently prevent queer relationships. esp, when living in group homes or when still under the guardianship of parents. it creates to much opportunity for sexuality and relationship policing. cool blog! issues of disability are something that i as an activist have not put much thought behind :( shame on me, i know and i am working on it. i was just thinking about how the assumptions of vulnerability and naivety could conveniently prevent queer relationships. esp, when living in group homes or when still under the guardianship of parents. it creates to much opportunity for sexuality and relationship policing.

]]> By: cripchick http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1076 cripchick Sat, 01 Dec 2007 19:19:41 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1076 Hiiii Peter! *waves* Most of my friends know, it just hard with parents because I still live under their roof and they're really conservative... in other words, it would have very *real* reprocussions for me since they provide transportation on weekends, etc. But yeah, after I move out, wait a few years etc, I'll be more ready I think (in terms of parents and home health nurses), I have no problem w/ other people. Hiiii Peter! *waves*
Most of my friends know, it just hard with parents because I still live under their roof and they’re really conservative… in other words, it would have very *real* reprocussions for me since they provide transportation on weekends, etc. But yeah, after I move out, wait a few years etc, I’ll be more ready I think (in terms of parents and home health nurses), I have no problem w/ other people.

]]> By: Peter Squire http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1075 Peter Squire Sat, 01 Dec 2007 17:12:54 +0000 http://crip-power.com/2007/11/28/oh-no-queer-and-disabled-all-at-the-same-time/#comment-1075 Why is it then that you have not told other individuals about your queerness? I can understand it not coming up in conversion, but at some point I would think you would meet that special some one, and would want to share that information with them. When that does happen, what do you think that you will do? Why is it then that you have not told other individuals about your queerness? I can understand it not coming up in conversion, but at some point I would think you would meet that special some one, and would want to share that information with them. When that does happen, what do you think that you will do?

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